When someone starts a sentence with "Your big problem is..." listen carefully, for they are about to tell you all about themselves.
"Your big problem," someone once said to me -- I listened attentively -- "your big problem is that you never take anything seriously."
Years later, someone said, "Your big problem is that you take everything too seriously."
If there are any absolutes it's that there are no absolutes. Don't believe everything you hear. Except sometimes, believe some of what you hear, but only if you feel like it.